​Relationships are an important part of life. They help us connect with others. For some, beginning romantic relationships is a major part of growing up. For others, it is an uncomfortable subject and they may see that dating only for adults. Overall, it is your choice when you would like to start dating another. It is okay if you feel that right now is not the time. It is still okay if you feel college is not the right time either. However, we believe it is critical to understand what a respectful and healthy romantic relationship looks like, and how to create one. In addition, we want to help ensure that you are able to recognise respectful relationships, and importantly, when you might not be in one.

To understand this we encourage you to look at the root causes that may influence violence or bullying. These are choice, taught abusive behavior, exposure to violence as a child, unhealthy gender norms, insecurity, and social acceptance. Some people grow up surrounded by violence and they may believe it is normal or healthy to insult others. Some people encounter risk factors that could increase their likelihood of becoming abusive or violent--it is important to note this does not mean someone will or will not be abusive or violent it just may increase the risk. A potential risk factor is unhealthy gender norms or rigid gender roles. The CDC gives the example of male dominance as a belief in a strict gender role. Another example of this is people thinking men cannot be victims of interpersonal violence because of societal expectations and rigid gender roles. We know that anyone can show dominance or be a victim regardless of their gender. At the end of the day, we all have the choice to show up as caring or controlling with our peers, friends, or in relationships.

​First, we would like to let you know that we appreciate you telling us a part of your story. We want you to know that you are not alone, and we are glad that you are asking us questions. Please know that our advocates are always available to talk and we’d be happy to meet or talk with you if you need support.

At BLOOM365, we do not want you to feel scared to date. Everyone reacts to traumatic events differently. For some who have experienced similar events like yours, they may feel scared to date. For others, they may not be scared. It is normal to feel either way, or somewhere in between. Allowing yourself time to process feelings and emotions is important. We all cope with things in different ways and at different speeds. Find what works for you and move at the pace you feel comfortable with. If you feel like you should open up more, or would like to, then allow yourself to do so. If you feel that you cannot open up at the moment, allow yourself to feel that way.

Always know BLOOM365 is here to support you if needed! If you need additional support and/orguidance on coping, please reach out to a BLOOM365 advocate at the number listed above. If you would like to try out our support groups as well, let us know.